The loss of a loved one is difficult. But the
loss of a spouse or life partner is more than difficult -- it changes your
entire world. When you share your life with someone, you learn to count on them
for both the big and the little things. Once that person is gone, all you have
is one question: What do I do now?
Mourning the loss of a spouse is even more difficult for seniors. The Atlantic
cites studies that show grief actually weakens the body, especially for those who are
older. After the loss, the body’s white blood cells -- the ones that help to
fight off infection -- weaken. At the same time, the stress hormone cortisol
increases. These physical changes can have a serious negative impact on a
person’s health. If it happens to an older person whose constitution is already
relatively weak, it can lead to serious problems for their overall wellness.
If you have a senior in your life who has
recently experienced a loss, being there to support them and look after both
their physical and mental well-being can make a huge difference. Caring
Transitions offers the following tips to help guide your loved one
through the grieving process.
Supporting
Seniors and Promoting Wellness
Everybody handles grief differently. While
some experts push the five stages (denial, anger, bargaining,
depression, and acceptance), in reality a person can bounce around those
emotions for an undetermined amount of time. Dealing with all of these feelings
can make it difficult for a person to take care of themselves. That’s why it
can be so helpful for a friend or family member to be there for support. Here
are some ways you can be that person for a senior that is mourning the loss of
a spouse.
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Be there. Just being present can make a world
of difference for a grieving person. Losing a spouse makes a house very empty,
so your presence can help fill that void while they recover from the shock of
their loss.
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Help them with chores around the
house. When dealing with a big loss, a lot of people are consumed with thoughts
of “nothing matters” so they let the dishes pile up or the laundry go unwashed.
You or someone you know
could handle larger projects like cleaning the gutters, or better yet enlist
the help of professionals specializing in gutter
cleaning near you. Lending them a helping hand can keep the house in
order so they don’t have to live in sadness and filth.
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Your loved one may decide to move
for a change of scenery or simply to downsize, which can be handled by the experts
at Caring Transitions. Since the moving process can be overwhelming, give them
a helping hand. One of the first steps of house hunting should be figuring out
finances; this includes getting an estimate of your loved one's current home to
see how much it's worth. From there, you can reach out to a lender and a
realtor to walk your loved one through the homebuying process.
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Sunrise Senior Living suggests
encouraging healthy eating habits. Depression affects
people’s appetite in different ways-- some people overeat and some people
neglect food altogether. Whatever they do, don’t shame your loved one for their
habits. Instead, help them prepare healthy meals, stock their refrigerators
with whole foods, and encourage them to drink plenty of water so they can stay
healthy.
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If you think they would be open to
it, connect them with a grief counselor. Therapists can help people work
through complicated feelings and provide them with healthy ways to cope with
their depression and anxiety.
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Watch out for alcohol or drug
abuse. People often turn to these harmful substances to self-medicate the pain
they feel after losing the one they love. The problem is, as PsyCom notes, they
actually do more harm than help.
Losing a spouse leaves a huge hole in a
person’s life. For seniors, it can also have a negative impact on their health.
Being there for your loved ones after a death can help keep them healthy so
they can recover and go back to living their life.
Caring
Transitions specializes in
professional organization, relocation, downsizing, and estate sale services in
Somerset, Union and Middlesex counties and the surrounding areas. Learn more
about how our professional organizer team can help you with all your
transitional needs by giving us a call today! 908-666-2699